There are two kinds of people in this sentence: those who want to flee the constant barrage of internet opinion, and those who choose to engage in it (either by cooling off the rhetoric or fanning the flames).
While we could sing the praises of technological connectivity all day (and we do), the trouble with online groupthink is that it gets away from us. It has become far too easy to grab our virtual lanterns and keyword pitchforks to develop an instant status quo, to be defended fortnightly—or at least for a few tweets, and in the process belittle all that don’t conform to it.
Meanwhile, what we’re losing, or at least forgetting, are the real people behind the cyberfray, several keystrokes deep.
Take the first story in the news section below. Society has allowed a system to be built around us on ideals that don’t actually exist, and frankly, probably shouldn’t, all because they gave the illusion of safety, slow and steady. We were naive and lazy, ignorant or complicit in the projection of collective fineness, when in fact it was nothing more than ducks gliding on water, kicking storms beneath. We were told to believe everything we read, and any deviation thereof resulted in the aforementioned pointy end of a pitchfork. This isn’t only about the sexual abuse outlined in the story, and endless, countless others, but our ability for honest discourse, the conversations of a country and the trust that we once took for granted.
Our human connection was broken long before the alarm sounded, and those who called it as such were promptly blamed for it, the smelt it/dealt it of American peer pressure. For some, this is the ringing of retreat, but for others, it is for the standing with each other, mending what is broken and dealing with that which is gone for good. It is about connecting, and asking each other, “How are you? How can I help?”
The signs are there for the looking.
IN THE NEWS
Rather than revere the false image of “America’s Dad,” we should “reexamine the cultural legacies of these apparently unbiased journalistic voices and try to understand the role they held in shaping how we view the world.”
A large percentage of younger kids have social media accounts, despite 13 being the minimum required age. Parents, what do you think?
Once you’ve been a SAHD, has guilt ever prevented you from going back to work?
Employers are discriminating against fathers at work by refusing requests for flexible hours, forcing mothers to do more childcare. Which helps nobody.
We’ve known for decades that sugar doesn’t cause hyperactivity in kids, so why do parents keep blaming it for their children’s behavior?
“Difficulties allow children to practice empathy, resilience and problem-solving. Intervention can have deleterious effects on a child’s growth.” – Braden Bell
- Worried whether adoption changes everything? Tobin Walsh shares his family’s story in “Somewhere There is a Child In Need of Adoption.”
- “The Terrible Twos,” writes Mike Soltys, can actually be pretty terrific.
- Cort Ruddy waxes on the realities of life while “Dashing Dreams in the Drop-Off Line.“
- A tired Andrew Knott reflects on the now in “We’re in the Thick of It.”
- From our friend Rob Ainbinder, on the health of his wife: “How We Learned About Angela’s Brain Tumor.”
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