Remember when people thought diapering was the apotheosis of hands-on fatherhood? If your kids are teenagers, as ours are, you know that’s ridiculous. We’re in the arena now, talking about drugs and bullying and college and sex and explaining the state of the world. Often all at once.
The Sex Talk is not a talk at all. It’s an ongoing conversation about consent, peer pressure, and defying shitty stereotypes. And it’s about more than just the biology; kids also want to talk about the emotional connections and vulnerability behind the relentless sexualization of basically everything (see photo below), and it’s up to us to save them from the hookup culture that leaves us all dead inside.
Building on last week’s Fatherhood on Friday about “Boys and Sex,” we compare and contrast the talks between Jeff and his two girls, and Doug and his two boys. There’s a lot of difference, to be sure, but there’s a lot more overlap. We want the kids to feel comfortable enough to approach us. We want them to know we’re in their corner, and we have (most of) the answers they seek. We want our kids to have complete control over themselves and their bodies.