Prince Harry Says “Yeah No,” and You’d Do the Same Thing

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This week, one of the world’s most over-observed people decided to deflect some of that observation away from his young family. The media likes to call it Megxit, because that’s the easy soundbite that rolls off the tongue, but you can see this move brewing in Prince Harry long before there was a Duchess of Sussex.

It probably dates back to 1997, when he was 12 years old and his mother was literally harassed to death. He lived his adolescence in the crosshairs of a ravenous press, and then spent ten years (and two tours in Afghanistan) in the British Army, when he famously said, “There’s no way I’m going to put myself through Sandhurst and then sit on my arse back home while my boys are out fighting for their country.” Small wonder that his fellow soldiers support him so unconditionally.

His son Archie was born in May, and within months reports showed his wife was really struggling with her “fourth trimester.” Which is rough enough for any mom, whether or not she married into rigid, foreign culture without her famously estranged father

Right about that time, Harry was in Angola rebooting his mother’s efforts to rid the area of unexploded mines. At which point he admitted that coping with his mother’s death is “a wound that festers,” and “every single time I see a camera takes me straight back.”

Don’t blame his wife. The prince is doing exactly what any father would do with the same experience, motive, and opportunity. He’s watching his wife relive his mom’s losing battle with unrelenting scrutiny, only now with Twitter. Call it “Sussexit,” because they made a decision as a couple, pursued self-care, and scrammed.

And you just know William looked at his brother and said, “Wait. You can do that!?”

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