During this brief podcast hiatus, this Monday has greeted us with a dull, podcast-shaped ache in our hearts. We can’t wait to be back with you, imparting sage pronouncements about fatherhood and culture (and/or blathering into your ear about bellybuttons and root beer).
As you may have heard, February 28 was one of our favorite Fatherhoods on Friday ever, and among the 17 Speakers on our mainstage were our traditional five Dad Blogger Spotlight readers, each of whom read a blog post from the previous year. Below are links to all five, and we hope reading them (and catching up on the episodes in the archive) will help sustain you until the podcast returns.
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“As Military Veteran Dads, we get hung up trying to make our legacy of our service mean something. We far to often don’t see it just as a job, we see it as our identity, we see it as our purpose, we see it as our legacy. Then we lose a friend in battle, or maybe a friend sacrificed their life so that we could live so we get hung up on why us? It becomes an endless loop of questioning in our head that doesn’t seem to have an end in sight.”
— Ben Killoy, When Is A Veteran Forgotten?
“I know it would be painful for me and her. But, I wanted to tell her while she was still conscious. While she was still able to respond in some real way. This was something in her future, and I know it breaks our unwritten code of focusing on the present. But I said it anyway. And we paid a price for it. A price we really shouldn’t have to deal with at all. I told her, ‘When it’s your time to go, it’s okay to …’ my voice trailing off as I started crying. Then continued, “it’s okay to go.'”
— Rob Ainbinder, Planning to Die to Go On Living
“She starts kindergarten in a couple of weeks, but I’m already wondering what kind of person she’ll be thirteen years from now, when she’s on the cusp of college. Will her sense of awe and wonder still be intact? Will she remain strong-willed and fearless? Where will her love of music and performing lead her? How will her resilience manifest when, to borrow from James Baldwin, ‘the teeth of the world’ grow sharp?”
— Johnathon Briggs, Inside the Bubble of Childhood
“Most of the time in public, I am excellent at wearing my ‘mask.’ People mostly have no idea of the battle I’m fighting. My kids see it, but at 7 and 9 they don’t understand. My wife sees it, but I’m too stubborn to let her help, although I’m not really sure how to let her help. I’m sad, and can’t seem to get past it.”
— Joseph Fowler, Whoa …
“Getting divorced is something that no one plans on when they get married. All you can do is hope to have a civil, respectful relationship between both parents and equally provide for the child. I couldn’t find myself to be without my daughter, nor will I take her from her mom. If both parents are present, then that child needs both parents. It is a lot more work co-parenting, but the focus should only be the child.”
— Flor Mercado, Single Dad Raising A Daughter